Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Brother I Need Your Advice...Regarding My Marriage.

If I Am Marrying A Christian Girl, How Can I Know This Is The Girl That God Has Chosen For Me?

Question : Brother I need your advice about what to do in this present condition I experience in my personal life. My father has four brothers, and all came yesterday morning along with others who are our relatives and altogether eleven people, to just eat my head and torture me to marry a unbelieving girl. Since morning to evening they just gave me so many lectures such as Christianity is not my religion, it's not good because your parents will suffer if you worship Jesus and they worship their gods. They have said that because my parents health are not good and that my father's nose bleeds without any reason, I should marry only whom they say within our community, for their sake I said OK to marry a unbelieving girl. But actually in my heart I want to marry only a believing girl and want to worship only Jesus. Please pray for me so that God will show me the way so that I can only follow Jesus. Brother if I am marrying a Christian girl, how can I know this is the Girl that God has chosen for me?

Answer : Greetings to you in Jesus wonderful name!

I understand how hard it is for a person like you to carry on in faith knowing that your parents are still unbelievers. But I also know that God is faithful to stand by your side no matter what, if you trust Him and hold on to His hand constantly. This is the verse I want to give to you for passing through this crisis in your life, "Commit your future to the LORD! Trust in him, and he will act on your behalf." (Psa 37:5, NET Bible). Do not rush in to your marriage trying to please your parents who are unbelievers but rather wait for the Lord in this matter to please Him perfectly. God always acts on behalf of those who wait for Him to act in their lives (Isa 30:18), and He may supernaturally change the mind of your parents and relatives at some point of time to give consent to your marriage with a believer, or else even without them God is able to help you do His perfect will to be blessed for eternity ahead (Eph 3:20). God wants to prove your faith to know that you love Him more than you love your natural father and mother, because the way God loves you is much more than your natural parents can and wants your total allegiance to only Him (Luke 11:13; Isa 66:13; Psa 27:10). But in this critical test of worthiness for your future reward, God is just watching whether you are able to carry on to become a disciple or just stay a believer (Matt 10:37; Luke 14:26; John 12:42-43; Matt 27:57; John 19:38). God is not ready to give up on you because of His love for you and therefore He will never leave you or forsake you as you have believed Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and have become as His dear child (Heb 13:5; Eph 5:1). So that is the reason you are put to test in your spiritual life and God has promised to not let you be tested beyond what you are able, but has promised to give you strength to bear it all if you reach out to Him constantly with your faith in His promises (Heb 12:6-8; 1 Cor 10:13; Heb 10:35-36). You can trust God through this test and can come out in flying colors for the Glory of God and become a example to others behind you to inherit God's great wealth and blessings for now and eternity ahead.

Because our God is a living God (Psa 42:2; Matt 16:16; Mark 12:27), He speaks through His Word (Heb 4:12-13), His servants (1 Peter 5:5-6), your circumstances (Rom 8:28-30) and most of all within your heart (Rom 8:16). God gives peace that passes your understanding of the finite mind and keeps it that way once you come to Him with your marriage choice (Php 4:6-7), then after that when you commit that matter continually to the Lord (Prov 16:3), He will lead the alliance to become possible by the co-operation of the main elders of both the families, friends, relatives for the marriage to take place in the fixed date (Prov 16:7).

When you have peace, even if there is nobody to stand with you to support your marriage (1 Cor 7:15-16), God will stand by you as you have heard His voice and have taken a decision to honor Him (1 Sam 2:30; Psa 91:15). Then the girl will willingly agree to marry you with all her heart because she will also have conviction given by God to take you as her partner for life.

To choose godly partner in marriage led by God's guidance falls in to three categories, they are as follows : (1) GOOD WILL OF GOD (Rom 12:2) - You can marry any Christian girl believing the Word of God which prohibits a believer to marry an unbeliever, and as you do it because you want to obey God's basic commands which are for your good (2 Cor 6:14), God will be pleased to bless you in the good level of the will of God which is the basic level. In this level of the will of God, you are entitled to all the Kingdom's provision, protection and promotion for participation in faith. (2) ACCEPTABLE WILL OF GOD (Rom 12:2) - This level of the will of God is the one which makes a person to wait upon God, and asks God further to show the right girl to marry by committing their desires as a sacrifice to God, and then continue to pray until God responds with his answers. But once they find someone acceptable to their mind the believer might settle for that person which God sets before them as He/She might have what they have been desiring based on their good look, educational qualification, wealth, etc along with their spiritual desire for God. But people who settle for this level of the will of God will be blessed greatly in areas such as financial, social, physical, soulish and a little bit less than the final level in their spiritual blessings which according to God is the greatest blessing that a person could receive from God, so though this level is acceptable to God yet these people will remain without the perfect level of blessings which is the ultimate level. (3) PERFECT WILL OF GOD (Rom 12:2) - People who do this level of the will of God will wait indefinitely without any per-condition or will have no desires of their own expect to fulfill the perfect will of God to please God and live for the furtherance of the Kingdom of God. Such people who do this perfect will of God will be blessed ultimately and perfectly to the full, generations after generations for a thousand generations the mercies, grace and His hand of favor will be upon them and their descendants.

God will always choose a girl with you in His will and not apart from you, and will in no way impose His will on you any time by His Sovereign hand. So you can settle for any level of the will of God, and by the way all the different level of the will of God are right in His sight. But all of it uniquely have different level of rewards according to what pleases God the most or at least more than the other.

Seek the will of God with all your heart and you will never be disappointed later in your life and will thus live in satisfaction for the rest of your eternity.

Much Blessings....


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Unknown said...

Thx brother for ur wonderful suggestion through the word of God am waiting for God confirmation about my marriage & praying continuously May God bless u.

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